If You're Not Married To Somebody, Keep Your Filthy Hands Off Them!
by David J. Stewart | April 2016
1st Corinthians 7:1-2, “Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.”
There's not enough preaching in churches today about chastity between the opposite sex. For about a year I had attended a local Independent Baptist Church in 2013-2014. At a church picnic with a bonfire one Sunday afternoon at the church (what they call a “Watchcare” meeting), I saw an unmarried female staff member walk over and start hanging on a married man. These are regular church members. The married man's wife was present, and she approves of this brother/sister kind of paling around between her husband and the single woman. My first thought was, “Why is this single Christian woman, and staff member, hanging on this married man?” I immediately thought, “This would not make a good wife, because she is touching married men already.”
To make matters worse, that same female staff member went to the married couple's home to spend Thanksgiving Day. They're dangerously close to committing adultery. Call me what you want friend, but I know impropriety when I see it! “Impropriety” is defined as: Lacking justification or authorization for close or warm friendship. An unmarried woman is not authorized nor justified to put her hands on a married man. IT IS WICKEDNESS!!! I'm talking about a staff member working for an Independent Baptist Church!!! The man and his wife have been in the church for many years. The Holy Bible teaches in 1st Corinthians 7:1-2 that unmarried couples ought not touch each other!!! Get mad at God, because He said it.
When I attended their church, I refrained from even shaking hands with the teenage girls, to show propriety toward the younger opposite sex. Only if an adult woman extended her hand in the presence of other adults at church, I very carefully and gently, and quickly, shook her hand (so as not to be rude). Sadly, few Christians respect chastity, propriety and virtue anymore. We need a revival of not touching the opposite sex in our churches!!! Letting somebody touch you once says, “You have my permission to touch me twice!” It is a dangerous thing to touch the opposite sex to whom you are not married. Although men are often to blame, many times it is a foolish woman who makes first contact with a married man by hugging him. If you hug or even brag, ladies, on a another married man, you have a permanent place in his heart. The Holy Bible says in 1st Corinthians 7:1-2 to FIND YOUR OWN HUSBAND!!! But you're not going to find a godly man if he sees you hugging on other married men!!! It is a very unwise, and a spiritually dangerous thing, for any Christian woman, married or unmarried, to hug a married man.
“All things truly wicked start from innocence.” ―Ernest Hemingway, Author
The Independent Baptist Church that I briefly attended for one year, allows female staff members to wear pants. I saw one of their pastor's wives recently in hot shorts. I'm still trying to forget. A few months back I saw her in sexy white tights, and I'm still trying to get her thighs out of my mind!!! It's her fault, not mine! I'm a man, and I'm trying to think right, but she isn't helping. It sure is hard being a Christian man these days, when everywhere you go women are clothed like a harlot. I'd expect that type of immoral values from the ungodly world. You'd think if there was one place in the world where you could feel safe from sexual temptation, it would be around Independent Baptist Church staff members. You can thank worldly Bible colleges like Bob Jones University and Moody Bible Institute for their part in adding to the problem, who permit female students and staff members to wear PANTS. Folks, any child knows that pants are a man's clothing!
You may think I'm a jerk, but I'm God's kind of jerk! John the Baptist preached against Herod's adultery and it cost John his life! I'm willing to die for my Biblical convictions, are you? Herod's brother's adulterous wife was so angry at the truth, that she had John beheaded! Immodest clothing produces lustful desires in the opposite sex (and nowadays both sexes)!!! You can't expect healthy men to stop being males! I'll preach against women wearing pants, and men wearing dresses, until I go to Heaven!!! And I'll also preach against single women touching married men. If a woman thinks it is ok to touch married men before she is married, don't expect her to remain faithful to her marriage vows if you marry her. What you see is what you get!!!
I'm not trying to be mean or unkind, just truthful. I get so frustrated when I see professed Christian women dressed in revealing sexy attire. Why oh why don't Christian women want to dress like ladies? The wicked world will tease, laugh and make fun of you for dressing like a lady, but not a godly man. A godly man will tremendously respect you, and want to marry you if you're single and he is also. Are there any Christian ladies left in the world today? We've got enough homewrecking whores in America, it's high-time for some godly ladies to exemplify the holiness of God in our churches. Nobody's perfect, I understand, and I'm the biggest sinner I know (because I know me better than anyone else), but right is right and wrong is wrong, and I'm going to preach the truth, even if it steps all over my toes too (and it often does).
I wrote this article to preach one main truth, and that is . . . IF YOU'RE NOT MARRIED TO EACH OTHER, KEEP YOUR FILTHY PAWS TO YOURSELF!!! You have no right to hug and caress another man who is NOT your husband. You have no right to even remove a piece of lint from his shoulder!!! And you men have no right to let a woman to whom you're not married hug or hold onto you!!! Proverbs 6:29, “So he that goeth in to his neighbour's wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent.” We've got a lot of guilty men in our churches today.
The same man that I am speaking about is close to committing adultery with the female staff member (if they haven't already). At the picnic, I was simply speaking to the man's wife at the food table, as she was standing across the fold-up table from me. Her jealous husband (the man whom I am speaking about) immediately rushed over to be present as I spoke with her. I can respect that, not a problem. I said nothing, but understood his jealousy. That's how a good husband behaves! Albeit, he hypocritically lets the female staff member hug and hang onto the right side of his body, and I saw the whole thing. They didn't think I noticed. They didn't care if anyone noticed. My opinion of that female staff member was formed that moment... a bad apple! They have the horrible mindset that they are good friends, like brother and sister, and the man's wife approves, so they foolishly think that makes it right to hug each other and buddy around like pals. IT IS WICKEDNESS!!! That single female staff member had no right to hug and hang onto that married man.
And shame on his professed Christian wife for allowing such improprieties. Why don't they have blindfolded knee-feeling parties at their house while they're at it! That's where male and female guests wear blindfolds, and touch each others knees, but no one knows who is touching them, or who they are touching. This is what the Devil's crowd does. You say, that is wicked! Yeah, and no less a wicked thing than a female church staff member hugging and hanging onto a married man. You say, boy you're really upset over this! If you're not, you're not right with God. GET RIGHT WITH GOD!!! I don't have a dirty mind, I have a man's mind. I'm not a homosexual. I see immoral, unethical and improprietous things that ought not be IN OUR CHURCHES TODAY!!! Who is on the Lord's side?